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The degree of separation is rapidly shrinking
Six degrees for separation was the topic of the 90’s. Everyone was calculating how many people they needed to know before they knew somebody that worked with actor Kevin Bacon. Yet, do you realize the degree of separation has narrowed? Studies now show that it’s not 6 degrees, but 4.74 degrees.
Things we are doing or saying are now spread faster, more openly, uncensored around the world. Look at how many people have access to social networks by cell phone and the ability to quickly upload information and share data. In times of disasters social networks have become a valuable resource for families, friends, and News organization. Scandals are now reported faster and with more criticisms and accusations to occur before all the facts are gathered. Jay Cutler’s injury during the NFL Division Playoff game last year, had professional athletes tweeting comments fueling comments that were speculations not truths. Many of these athletes after learning the truth recanted their tweets and made public apologies.
What we can learn from this is that we now live in a time that everything we do or say can be captured and quickly transmitted. Microsoft’s present commercial depicts a family having fun with a video game, the father participates in the fun and the next thing you know the silliness is on YouTube. Seems harmless, but what is the father job? Lawyer, Negation, Community Leader, Politician, Athlete, Doctor, Chamber of Commerce President or somebody who’s going through a nasty divorce. What perception will this give to the public?
The degrees of separation are closer and news travels faster. The people you want to see your video and messages are only clicks away, but also so are the people you want to protect your image from. Be smart with your social media posts and the degrees of separation will seem like miles, not inches.
Camera, Holidays, and Image
It’s that time of year when cameras are clicking and silliness is bountiful. We are only human, we want to participate in the fun. The cool Halloween costume which may be too reveling, politically incorrect or a picture taken perfectly to catch our eye partially open, mouth in mid sentence, and your body language looks like you’ve been hit by a car.
Unless you’re being stalked by paparazzi, hiding behind a garbage can, waiting to catch that perfect compromising picture, it’s up to you to make sure your picture is properly taken. I don’t know of any photographer who is looking to take a bad picture, so it is up to the person being photographed to monitor their image.
If pictures are being taken, expect to be in at least one if not more. Quickly observe your surroundings and look for anything that may be inappropriate. If you’re standing next to a naked statue or suggestive painting, relocate to a better area. Put the drink out of pictures view; straighten up your appearance prior to the photo. Ask the photographer, “How do I look?” After all they want a nice picture, otherwise why would they be taking it?
Where the picture winds up or on what social medial website is always questionable, so it is up to you to pay attention to who’s taking the picture. If their using a camera you can assume the picture will be uploaded later, if it is a camera phone, then picture can be loaded as soon as they are taken. Don’t forget to ask to see the picture, if it really bad, ask to delete it and take another. It’s that simple.
Hopefully, if it is not a flattering picture it will travel the way of this diagram. If not, It’s your fault for not managing your image.
Learn to control the feeling of disarray and you’ll sleep better at night.
Ever have the illusion that everything is moving 100 mph an hour and the more you try to do the less you accomplish? You try your best, but you feel in disarray?
When this occurs, I found that focusing on one task, normally a project that can be completed. Such as cleaning off my desk, straightening up the kitchen, tasks that I can visual see, gives me a sense of accomplishment. Some projects may be organizing a stack of papers, but I look for any task that gives me 100% control. As I complete each project the feeling of disarray diminishes, self-confidence builds, things get accomplished and I’m now performing at light speed, no goal in unachievable, no project is too big, I’m now known as the “Organizer”, the Completer of Tasks.
Take control over disarray and work on things you have 100% control over. Allow the feeling of confidence to build and the feeling of disarray to diminish. You’ll find it easier to sleep at night when your not worrying about things you didn’t accomplish.